Misunderstandings...

Three years at NITT, mingling with a mini India, talking and associating with a wide genre of people . . . . made me realize this . . . . there are so many friendships made and so many get destroyed as well . . . almost, or rather, every such breakup is due to Misunderstandings.

For example, everyone . . . anyone . . will have a friend, whom they know for a long long time, that person is their family friend and he/she has been entrusting that friend with almost everything happening in his/her's life and strongly believes that that friend can be completely trusted upon. Now, he/she has told that friend a very very arcane stuff, stuff that has to be so completely hushed up and treasured and this friend smilingly approves it and ensures his confidentiality. However, Murphy's laws aint termed as laws for nothing, these laws come into play and somehow this treasure is exposed to the buccaneers ! But, but, this friend is genuine, he aint spoken a word about it to anyone, but, he/she, immediately, without even hesitating a moment to think, simply calls up this friend and starts bashing him up, screaming, accusing with bawdy remarks and what not . . . . . Now, what can this friend say ? . . . he asserts his innocence, says he aint responsible for anything and repeatedly, politely and patiently pleads his innocence.....on the other hand...he/she, goes on bickering about the friend's betrayal, not even pausing to listen to his pleadings, completely blinded by the rage . . . . . . . now, this continues for some time and this friend. . . . loses his patience, completely irritated that he too starts spouting words and quarrels . . . . . . . . in the end . . . . . . they, sadly, pathetically end their lifelong, family friendship :(

So, this is just an example, . . . another cause. . just plain misunderstandings of a conversation. Say, he/she and the friend is having a conversation which slowly enters into an unwarranted territory. Now, he/she (or the friend) misinterprets a statement made by the friend(or he/she) and then . . the above said situation ensues. Another example, the very infamous game - "pass the message" . .. he/she says something to Mr.X and asks him to pass it on to the friend . . Mr.X bungles up the message but obediently delivers it to the friend - who misinterprets it and again . . the above situation ensues . . . .

Sometimes, I have had this experience, some of my friends . . they expect me to tell them each and every thing happening in my life, each every second of my life they want to know, but, ofcourse, I can't tell them everything, there may be some events so trivial that such events need no mention at all . . but the friend says - "hey, why din't u tell me that ?" . . again, misunderstandings and the above situation once again ensues .. . .

A budding young designer, a senior artiste, a fellow Ron's man - some people whom I misunderstood . . . and sometimes, repent for that.

This is one feeling, one phenomena, that is as big and endless as the Universe , it can never stop, can never be avoided and its really really really difficult to get rid of - misunderstandings - a bane on human understandings.

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When the Rishis themselves curse and abuse their fellow Rishis, what can poor mortals do ? When such high intellectual people themselves fall prey to misunderstandings (you can find many many misunderstandings amongst Rishis in the Hindu Myths) , what can you mere mortals do ? - - -sarve janaa sukhino bhavanthu - - - -The Maharishi